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Re: Advice needed for moving 4 year old boy to the Dordogne, please

Thank you so much for your reply. That's really really helpful and much appreciated. Thank you. Sorted on employment. X
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Re: Advice needed for moving 4 year old boy to the Dordogne, please

Again, thank you so much for your reply. It's a big move for us but I just worry about the kids as I let my husband deal with everything else! But that has also made me feel much better. It's comments like these that I've really been looking for and it helps me to regain some strength and trust in my mind that "everything is going to be okay." X
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Re: Advice needed for moving 4 year old boy to the Dordogne, please

Leanne - I wonder if those articles you mention are "tongue in cheek"?
I've often seen french children in public making a fuss etc. I don't know about school, but french  parents tend to smack their children more than british parents.
At age 4 your boy will probably go to Maternelle first, where there's plenty of opportunity for play.
How long are you expecting to be in France?

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Re: Advice needed for moving 4 year old boy to the Dordogne, please

My eldest is Charlie and although for the most of it, he is sociable, likeable and very polite, like all 3 year old boys in the UK, he comes with his foibles! He can tantrum, have a stinking attitude when he wants and although I consider my partner and I disciplinarians, when he's "on one," I find it incredibly hard to reign him in! Since he was very small, he ALWAYS wakes in the night. Anything from 1-2 hours. He's no bother but on his bad nights, he is understandably shattered the next day which is when he plays up the most.

 

It may have seemed to me in my grumpiness that all young children in the UK behave that way but its depressing to read someone normalising the behaviour but that is indeed the impression that parents of what I refer to as "expressive children" give out, that its normal behaviour and the rest of society are out of kilter, maybe I am/we are, maybe there has been a quantum shift from my childhood when all I heard was "children are to be seen and not heard" and "you only speak when spoken to"

 

As I am typing this I can see/hear a 3 year old girl throwing a screaming fit in the GP's surgery on "GP's behind closed doors" how can it be that so many 3 year olds have managed to exercise total control over their adult parents?

 

Aside from the behavioural différences of the children in the UK and France I find that in French families where make no mistake the children are the parents number one priority that the children do not believe that they are the centre of the universe, that they are princesses etc, it must be a real culture shock when these children leave education and have to face the reality that the world is not a gilded cage, that there is high unemployment and it takes a lot of hard work and effort to succeed against the odds.


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Re: Advice needed for moving 4 year old boy to the Dordogne, please

Reply to Patf: Thank you so much for your time in replying. We plan for France to be our future for the forseeable. I can't wait! I've been lifted by (most) people's comments. It's made me know that I don't have to strive for perfection. Not sure if the articles were tongue in cheek so much - They may have been! But I do know that they were just completely unhelpful and ended up making me feel bad about my parenting skills. I think I'll just trust my instinct. Thanks again x
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Re: Advice needed for moving 4 year old boy to the Dordogne, please

I was not being rude, and I really did believe it was a wind up. We do get them on here.

AND cajal, most people I know IRL,have differing views to me. Life is life,  and I am adult enough to know that everyone has their own opinions, in fact your comment was simply stupid.......and unwarranted!

Re comparing  nationalities, recent trip to France, so on the ferries, teenagers, british, one way, french the other. The french were more disruptive than their british counterparts. But I have seen it the other way round.

And tantrums, well,  most little ones have them. IF you believe that they are excessive, then take professional advice. 


And I ask again, why are you not reading french parenting forums, just looked at this one:

http://forum.doctissimo.fr/psychologie/parents/liste_sujet-1.htm

As you will read, absolutely normal life and problems. So instead of having a go at me, why didn't you just look as I suggested and reassure yourself. As you are moving to France and a whole french world is a click away, again, I will say, look things up yourself.

I moved when I was young, and had my kids in France.

And my youngest was a handful......






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Re: Advice needed for moving 4 year old boy to the Dordogne, please

I've just realised - if he's called Charlie he will already be well known in France - Charlie Hebdo Smile [:)]

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Re: Advice needed for moving 4 year old boy to the Dordogne, please

Ha ha I know! I've thought about that myself! Especially as he'll say "je suis Charlie!" X
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