| Quillan wrote:|
I don't think the argument is so much about giving women the right to feed their babies in public I think its more about public places being made to provide suitable facilities for a mother to breastfeed her baby
It would be a lot cheaper and more practical if people simply didn't have issues with women breastfeeding in public. The facilities I need are is a chair and shelter from sun / rain. That is it. Private facilities can be a godsend to women who are shy about feeding in public: but they are often shy solely because of attitudes like Quillan's and don't want to be stared at. And as for walking out of a restaurant if a woman starting feeding her child - that kind of attitude is precisely why rates are so low and so many women refuse to even try to breastfeed. When I started off I would choose a quiet corner of the restaurant/cafe and sit with my back to the room. Then as my confidence grew, I could sit anywhere and you would really need to be staring at me to see any part of my skin. But it can take a lot of confidence and you need to feel like you will be supported. I felt really terrible when the restaurant owners made a snide comment and it did give me a big knock.
You can't promote breastfeeding and then shove all the women who want to do it into a private room. To increase breastfeeding rates, a normalisation of attitudes is needed and it should be ok to breastfeed anywhere you would bottle feed. Otherwise, it is difficult to leave the house. Finding a place to change a nappy can be difficult enough: needing to find breastfeeding facilities would be a logistical nightmare, especially in rural France and the mothers of small babies have enough hassle getting out the door! Getting a table a langer or even a toilet large enough to change a nappy is a triumph in the large towns near me.
I am shocked that you can compare it with smoking in a restaurant: a women breastfeeding a child has no impact on your health for a start. All you need do is not look. You may think you support breastfeeding Quillan, but your attitudes are really anti-breastfeeding. I don't want to offend anyone but feeding a child in a place where others are eating is a normal thing to do and I don't think people who have some kind of weird issue with that should be pandered to.
Have you ever seen a women breastfeeding beside you in a restaurant and if so, why would it bother you to the extent that you would walk out of the restaurant Quillan? Would you do the same for a bottlefed baby? I think some people think a woman practically undresses to breastfeed in public, but this is really not the case. Please do try to think about the effect your actions and attitudes would have on a woman trying to establish feeding. It really can be difficult enough to do without having to worry about insulting those around you.